So if law enforcement does nothing and we can't trust men to police themselves, the next option is...what ? Preemptive castration after puberty? Men never being alowed to be in the presence of woman on their own? 24/7 surveilance of every single man in America?

I sympathize with your situation and I feel your pain. But unless you have an actual solution besides being vituperative and angry, you're basically playing in the narrative that the author lays out.

What is the course of action? I ask this for every single minority group who basically chooses to argue society has faield them and therefore is irrevocably broken. There's name calling, saying you don't understand that you're a racist/misogynist/homophobe.transphobe/bigot/et al, all of which saves you the bother of having to come up with an alternative. No one's denying horrible, ghastly things happen in our society and that the laws don't work they should. But any idiot can say that. Hell, I've lost count of how many people on this blog have written articles saying variations on that. And in seven years, no one - of any group of any kind - has ever offered an alternatve. I spent years asking what they would do if they had the power and received no response. Not a solution. No response at all.

Which leads me to believe that you don't want a solution. You want to be angry. It's simpler just to blame the system then to do the work to fix it and no one wants to do that because they don't know what a solution looks like. And rather then admit their ignorance, they consider those who ask the very necessary questions the enemy.

I suspect that will happen here to because that's what keeps happening. You don't want to actually have a debate. You want to be told that your position is the right one and anyone who questions you is either the enemy or on their side. tHAT causes you to push away people you want to help or who want to understand until they throw up their hands and stop listening. Then you have fewer allies. If you want to live like that, no one can stop you, certainly not me. But it's a lonely way to live and I do feel sorry for you.