The problem is the minorities - and not just trans but every group in identity politics has a faction that makes it very clear that if you question any part of their argument, even if it is out of genuine need to comprehend their point of view, you are de facto considered a bigot, white supremacist and part of the problem. I've seen this exact point made very clear by people on this blog even when members of their own identity group have tried this to make this clear.
As a result though the only way to win any rights for the political battles come winning over a coalition, the harsh rhetoric becomes so fiery and angry that it pushes away people who might be willing to help but don't understand. I can't tell you how many times I've seen this over and over and if the comments are any indication here, none of the people involved seem willing to give any ground on it. They say "We don't need those people on are side". The fact that it ends up costing elections that will end up hurting them far more than the opposition - indeed, hurt so many people overall - is irrelevant to them.
No matter how much you try to pose the question, no matter how innocently or rationally, there is a contingent who seem determined to twist any rational comment as hate speech or bigotry. This makes any compromise or dialogue impossible, and it pushes people away, and things will just get worse. And if you try to point this out to anybody, they just go to their sackcloth and ashes and argue: What do you expect from just a racist, homophobic, misogynic place as...the entire world? They say you want us to listen to them but so much of their rhetoric is angry and isolated to begin with. And it's not clear what so many of these groups want from the world or even if those things are possible in a democracy or any form of government. But if the de facto position is anything other than total agreement equals Nazi/White Supremacist - which can be the defaultt sad to say, then dialogues aren't possible. I almost wonder if they want they prefer the world be a horrible place for them.
This is the position society is to be in. There are thousands of articles out there telling you what is wrong with America and that's fine. But any time anyone dares to ask what can be done to fix it, you get told in no uncertain terms that YOU are the problem. And if that's the case, why should anyone even try to come up with a solution? How are we supposed to help if even posing the question is considered signs of bigotry? Round and round it goes and nobody wants to give an answer. Not even the people who are under the most attack from it.